Positivity

This post is the reply to the previous post. Actually I wanted to leave a comment there but I guess it’s too long, so I’ll just publish as a new post. =) Alright, I am not trying to defend girls here ok, just sharing experiences and thoughts. Been there, done that, kind of thing. *smiles*

Seth wrote,

"What’s the need for her to go out with another guy? Did I do something wrong?
Does she not love me anymore? Am I not good enough?"

Girls also have those questions running through their head when it comes to their guy wanting to go out or hang out with another girl.This kind of problem, it depends on the state of the relationship…whether it’s rocky or stable. If it’s rocky, then trust me, both parties don’t want to hear the answers. We all know the truth hurts.

If the other party wants to go out with someone else instead of their significant other during the time when the relationship is not in a good state, then it means the couple has problems. Full stop.

But what if you two are ok, then suddenly your bf/gf asks permission to go out with someone else? I know… I know… we would panic, right? That’s why those questions of self-esteem suddenly pop-up out of no where. *smiles*

And when you come to this point, it’s best if you and your girl/guy talk about it and get the answers to all the questions in your head. This is to make sure both parties understand the situation they are in. If you guys don’t talk, the other party might do something unexpected behind your back in the future like sneaking out to meet the other guy/girl, we don’t want that to happen, do we?

It’s not because you are inadequate, it’s not because he/she doesn’t love you anymore, it’s not because you do something wrong that he/she wants to go out with the other guy/girl.

It’s because they want space to catch up with old friends who happens to be the opposite sex. It doesn't happen always.. Perhaps it's the only one chance for them to meet after such a long time...

It is the opposite sex here that make this problem such a big deal to us. Whats with the thought of your other half laughing or having fun with the opposite sex. It worries you. You don’t trust the people around your bf/gf. And the last thing you wanna do is not trust your other half.

OPPOSITE SEX is the key word of why we don’t wanna let him/her go out. And maybe, we forget the other key which is OLD FRIEND. We meet with old friend and talk about past and present life, and you are the present life. He/she will talk about you to the other OLD FRIEND. Don't u feel proud of it? Of of how his/her eyes shining brightly when they talk about you?

Being positive, one can gain so much yet one can also lose... there is a choice, there is an option, but when it comes to being negative, one just loses out. We take a risk when we remain positive... we take a chance.

That chance may just turn our whole life upside down, bring us rainbows all year long, shine our darkest nights forever and nourish our soul for eternity.

So instead of questioning your self-esteem, why not being positive, about yourself, significant other and the whole situation?

*smiles*